The Short Cut:

A quick fire chat about working life with Priscilla Appeaning

Priscilla Appeaning founder of The Stepmums' Club

The Short Cut designed to bring you a snapshot of our members’ working lives. Today we’re speaking to Priscilla Appeaning, founder and coach at The Stepmums’ Club. 

At the heart of the Nurture Network is the power of sharing experiences.

From breakthrough career moments, to best ever advice, how to deal with stress and the women that inspire them.

Tell us about your breakthrough career moment

Have you heard the saying “you’re preaching to the choir”? Well, that had become me for a long time, and that was fine because the community you advocate for needs you to face them and tell them it’s going to be okay. But this year, I have left my proverbial church and choir and have gone out into the world! I have begun my work advocating for stepparents in their workplaces, and as very new as this has been for everyone, I have had a yes from Tommee Tippee, Tommy Hilfiger, Calvin Klein, LSE, Peabody, and Papier in 2024 so far.

This came after many ‘no’s,’ so my accomplishments so far are giving the breakthrough vibe, for now!

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever had?

What is your audacious dream – work towards that!” Now, my good friend, Harriet said that to me, but it always scares me before it inspires me, ALWAYS! But I know I can do it, achieve it, accomplish it. I, of course, seldom know how, but in each hour, I know what I am going to try, and then I try. I don’t know if I’m getting closer, but I know I’m moving forward.

Have you ever felt held back as a women? How do you respond?

Yes! As a solo working woman with poor health, especially but regardless of the specifics of my story/journey, one thing I have seen time and time before is – many people will watch you build your plane, may say something encouraging whilst you are fitting in the parts, and some people won’t even know you are making your way to the runway, but as soon as your plane takes flight, people will want to get on board. I’m waiting for that season. I do not feel like men have to prove themselves before people want to back them up, but in this season, I can’t help but feel like I need to prove myself as a woman doing something very niche.

How do you protect your mental health in moments of pressure?

I shut down and take a break before I feel my body begin to physically react. I always tell myself “I cannot come and die”. I take one mental wellness day in a week, and my goal is to bring it up to two.

On those days, I am not a mother or a wife. I am Priscilla, resting, counting my blessings, eating well and slowly, building myself up by exercising, learning, or reading, and not coming home until I’m tired.

The woman who empowers me is…

…I actually don’t know but I hope its me for my three daughters. 

I feel empowered when…

… I think about the potential change I can create before I pass. 

The world would be a better place when…

… we focus on how we can add light to a dark world and do so with a purpose beyond ourselves. We need to see ourselves as important members of a larger body and to know this body won’t function if we don’t all play our own parts.

The woman who everyone should know about it…

… I’ll come back to this question, as everyone should know about every amazing woman.

Do you have any hobbies to keep you busy in your spare time?

No – but I’m going to change that. I have started boxing and I want to get in to baking. So lets see.

Where is your favorite place in the world?

At home with my children – I homeschool and have been doing so for eight years, so you can imagine how much I love being around my four children.

The best place in the world for me is being at home with my family